Sometimes I feel that one french fry that ends up in your basket of onion rings. I hate it when people say their #1 goal in life is just to help people. Give me a break. I’m here to do one thing and one thing only: me.
And I’m not sorry for that. I think it’s ok to do things for yourself. That’s not being selfish, that’s being smart. We live in a cautious, precarious world right now, and I’m determined to live my best life. In order to properly nourish your inner perspective, you need to understand what your perspective truly is. How can you do that by never doing anything for yourself? I’m not saying, make yourself lunch. Everyone has to eat, every person has basic needs that need to be met. But sometimes you have to go the extra mile and give yourself that boost you deserve.
I understand in this day and age, we have to watch our weight, save money, and plan ahead for the future. But 24/7? How’s that anyway to live? The future is important, but what about today? I believe in planning for the present. I work crazy hours and constantly have a ton of school work, but I set aside time everyday to write and work on TTF because it’s something that’s for me. It’s something that I want to do and fulfills the creative aspect of my personality, so I make the time.
Embracing my own individuality is something that I’ve only recently started to accomplish. It’s hard when you’re in a close-knit family, have good friends and in a loving relationship. I hate this idea ingrained in our brains that “it’s always better to give than to receive.” Sure, ideally at Christmas that’s a nice thought. But what about to yourself? I always go back and forth for ages whenever I want to buy anything for myself and then end up feeling guilty about it afterwards. But if it’s a gift, money ends up being no object. When did we become a society where you’re the last priority? Why is that ok and why are we not making a bigger deal out of this?
It just doesn’t make sense to me that doing something for yourself can be deemed as selfish. Being selfish is being only concerned for your personal well-being and having no regard for others. The act of treating yourself is just about appreciating yourself as a person. Where did other people’s well-being come into the equation? If you’re not going to make sure that you’re getting what you deserve, no one else is going to do it for you. Do you and don’t you dare make any apologies for it.
Here’s a few easy ways I treat myself on the daily.
- Have something “bad for you” at lunch. It’s still early enough that you can walk it off later in the day, and it’ll give you a boost to get through the rest of the work day.
- Buy music. I buy 2 songs off of iTunes about once-a-week. It’s a small investment, but listening to my favorite songs make me happy and it’s something that’s 100% for me.
- Try my toothpaste facial. This is something that you’ll want to do alone either way. So it’s a win-win. Plus you’ll have beautiful skin.
- Take a nap. Set the alarm for an hour and catch up on some beauty rest. Rome wasn’t built in a day, girl.
- Buy nice mascara. Speaking of Rome, I’m sick of people saying drugstore mascaras are the best. They suck. End of story. Try YSL’s Shocking and try to tell me that’s comparable to what you can get at Walgreen’s.
- Don’t set an alarm on your day off. Going to bed early! JK never got out of bed. It’s your day off. No one told you that there’s only one way to spend it.
- If there’s an option for double meat, just get it. This one is more me, but you get the idea. Same goes for if there’s an option to add a skewer of shrimp.